Posts by Kimberly June Miller

Communication is, at its essence, shared understanding. So it makes sense that, if you and your spouse have different understandings of key terms related to marriage, your communication will suffer. In my guest blog for Imago Relationships North America, I share tips I often use to help couples bridge the communication gap. Click here to […]

In Steps One through Four of this newsletter series, I’ve shared the benefits of focusing on and befriending a hurting part of your soul, inviting Jesus to draw near it, and unburdening it. In this final step of the Five Steps of Taking a You-Turn, we’ll explore how to integrate a once-troubled part into your […]

Would you talk to loved ones the same way you talk to yourself? Or are you harder on yourself than with those you love the most? Why does our Inner Critic (nearly everybody has one!) sometimes work so hard? And what can you do if its help isn’t always so . . . helpful? As […]

Imagine trying to run a marathon hauling a backpack full of rocks. That’s what it’s like to go through life carrying painful memories, extreme beliefs, stubborn feelings, or even physical problems that parts of you take on as a result of challenging experiences. You can develop burdens any time, starting in childhood. The fourth step […]

When your emotions talk, how well are you listening? Are you giving them your full attention? Chris Grace and Tim Muehlhoff of Biola University’s Center for Marriage & Relationships interview Kim in a two-part podcast series about preparing emotionally to set healthy boundaries.

Did you know you can turn your shame into joy, your anger into advocacy and your inner critic into your biggest champion? You can do so by following “The Five Steps of Taking a You-Turn.” In my last two newsletters, I outlined Steps One and Two: How to focus on and befriend a challenging part […]

In my last newsletter, we explored Step One of Taking a You-Turn . . . focus on a thought or feeling that needs your attention. Now, let me ask you: When you give a challenging part of yourself your close attention, how do you feel toward it? Do you notice that you don’t like it? […]

Each week in my counseling practice, I am granted sacred access to the inner worlds of clients with differing world views, cultural backgrounds, economic means, and religious affiliations. While some differences are more obvious than others, it’s what unites these brave souls that inspires me: They are seeking a way to calm the chaos within […]