Posts by Kimberly June Miller

When The Holidays Herald a Heavy Heart

For some, the fall and winter months are the highlight of the year, bringing three cherished holiday celebrations—Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s—in quick succession. But for others, scenes of seasonal merrymaking bring overwhelming feelings of sadness, alienation, and hopelessness. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), “High expectations, loneliness and stress can lead […]

The Quiet Work of Caring: How to Establish Life-Giving Boundaries Within and Without

“…the work now most needing to be done—that of neighborliness and caretaking—cannot be done by remote control with the greatest power on the largest scale.” —Wendell Berry The idea that there’s always more deeply drives our way of life and informs the way we think of possessions, science, knowledge, and technology. To think otherwise is […]

The 5 Steps of Taking a You Turn Explained on “Win Today” Podcast

Win Today’s Christopher Cook recently chatted with Kim about toxic emotions and Boundaries for Your Soul. Listen as Kim guides you through a five-step process to transform overwhelming thoughts and feelings—aspects you regard as liabilities–into powerful strengths.

Boundaries For Your Soul: A Christian Approach To The Family Internal Systems Model

Learn to lead the hurting parts of yourself into fellowship with God . . . because, ultimately, the best way to care for the overwhelming parts of your soul involves inviting God’s Holy Spirit to be with them. The Boundaries for Your Soul model is biblical, simple, and—best of all—it works! Here’s an overview of […]

Are Parts of Your Soul Stuck in the Past?

My client, Scott*, was confused about his love life. Debra, whom he’d met at church, seemed to have all the qualities Scott had been praying for in a wife. As the couple’s relationship became more serious, though, Scott noticed a troubling thought. “I feel torn about Debra,” he said, plopping down on my office couch. […]

Boundaries for Your Soul on “Hope In The Night”

Kimberly was recently interviewed about Boundaries for Your Soul on June Hunt's late night call-in counseling broadcast, "Hope in the Night."

Guest Blog Post For Ann Voskamp

I was honored to guest blog for Ann Voskamp at annvoskamp.com recently, when she posted “When You Need to Know How to Hold the Overwhelming Sadness Within Your Heart.” If you’d like to know how to put a gentle boundary around your sorrow, so it can settle comfortably in one chamber of your heart, rather […]

Reflections on Recent Tragedies

Dear friend, We all were surprised recently when two celebrities took their lives within a few days of each other: Kate Spade, one of the world’s best-dressed women, and Anthony Bourdain, who ate delicious food for a living. How do we make sense of such tragedies? Generally speaking, one way to imagine self-harming tendencies is […]