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My client, Scott*, was confused about his love life. Debra, whom he’d met at church, seemed to have all the qualities Scott had been praying for in a wife. As the couple’s relationship became more serious, though, Scott noticed a troubling thought. “I feel torn about Debra,” he said, plopping down on my office couch. […]

Kimberly was recently interviewed about Boundaries for Your Soul on June Hunt's late night call-in counseling broadcast, "Hope in the Night."

I was honored to guest blog for Ann Voskamp at annvoskamp.com recently, when she posted “When You Need to Know How to Hold the Overwhelming Sadness Within Your Heart.” If you’d like to know how to put a gentle boundary around your sorrow, so it can settle comfortably in one chamber of your heart, rather […]

Dear friend, We all were surprised recently when two celebrities took their lives within a few days of each other: Kate Spade, one of the world’s best-dressed women, and Anthony Bourdain, who ate delicious food for a living. How do we make sense of such tragedies? Generally speaking, one way to imagine self-harming tendencies is […]

Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed by your emotions? If so, you’re not alone. Let me tell you about my client, Megan*, who settled into a lovely retreat center with an ocean view. The peaceful backdrop was everything she hoped it would be. She soon discovered, though, that sitting quietly only made her more . . […]

I wrote this book (and recorded a companion audiobook!) because I wanted to share a way of handling emotions that I’ve found useful, both for myself and in my counseling work with others. Most people I know are well-intended, but sometimes their emotions can get the best of them. I know it can be true […]

Dear Kim, How do we both get what we want out of our marriage when key terms such as love, care, support, and communication are defined very differently between spouses? It often seems like we’re exchanging with different currencies with differing rates. Many thanks, Speaking Different Languages   Dear Languages, Communication is, at its essence, […]

Dear Kim, As a dating couple, Facebook has become an issue because my boyfriend doesn’t want anything about us on his page. Is this ok? Sign me, Forlorn Over Facebook Dear Forlorn Over Facebook, It makes sense that you’re curious, maybe even a little sad and angry, about why your boyfriend doesn’t want anything about […]